Robin is an Associate Marriage and Family Therapist who has graduated with a Master's in Clinical Psychology from Notre Dame de Namur University in Belmont, CA. She has a background in behavioral health, education, transitional youth, addiction and recovery services, and suicide prevention. She has worked with couples who have adult children struggling with mental illnesses such as addiction, depression, and anxiety. She has experience working in diverse cultures and backgrounds in outpatient clinics, large healthcare systems, and private practices. She believes everyone has a voice and deserves to feel safe, respected, and heard. Robin encourages her clients to connect by offering a safe, nurturing environment, enabling clients to feel supported and valued.
With 30 years of marriage and parenting four children, Robin's personal experience has given her a unique perspective to help her clients explore, reconnect, and rediscover their "sparkle." She understands the challenges of working, parenting, and finding time for self-care while strengthening personal and professional relationships. She works with couples, individuals, and family systems to develop improved communication, respect, and love. She helps couples and individuals through life transitions such as a new home, first child, loss of career, or loss of a loved one by exploring coping skills to reduce stressors and move towards healing. In addition, Robin works with couples to become more self-aware of their behavior and how it affects their loved ones.
Robin's approach is humanistic and creates a safe and non-judgmental environment for her clients to communicate openly. She has worked with families and children by guiding her clients towards rewarding and harmonious connections. She specializes in working with couples and individuals who want to improve their relationships, reduce stress, and make realistic goals with solution-focused therapy, positive communication, self-awareness, and self-care. Robin uses evidence-based therapeutic approaches by helping her clients to focus on building solutions by providing emotional and psychological safety to foster positive motivation and change.
Learning how to navigate conflicts as a couple is essential to healing. Some relationship conflicts may arise for couples, such as insecurity, conflicting parenting styles, or conflicting goals. Robin gently works with couples to maintain calm and respectful conversations while discovering what they both want and need in the relationship. The idea is to find what works as a couple to create a new process for problem-solving through positive communication, collaboration, and self-awareness. Building a stronger trust through acceptance and understanding can bring couples together and reinforce emotional connection.
Sometimes life throws new challenges at you, and you might find that what previously worked before may not work so well now. For example, it can be stressful in most marriages if one or both partners are struggling with the loss of a family member, career loss, a new environment, or the birth of a child. In addition, when one or both partners are wrestling transitions, such as depression or anxiety, it is difficult to stay on track. Robin will help clients review their life experiences to discover previous healthy coping skills. In partnership, she will help clients explore previous successes to develop their coping skills with new challenges.
Neurodiverse couples can have different communication styles and perspectives, making intimate and loving relationships a challenge. However, neurodiverse couples can grow together by finding meaningful connections, focusing on their preferences, and learning to understand each other better. Based on the goals of the Neurodiverse couple, Robin will help support stronger relationships and work on problem-solving skills. Couples will focus on new ways to celebrate each other, reconnect, and interpret intention successfully. Through acceptance, education, and self-awareness, couples will practice relating to each other to create a more harmonious relationship.
Anger is a normal human emotion that we all have from time to time. How we express anger can be challenging, especially if it is not addressed. Sometimes, we feel angry at one situation or person, and we take it out on the ones we love most, including our partner. Learning to manage your anger and how you respond is a valuable tool in all relationships. Understanding reactivity between a couple can help a romantic relationship become more intimate and secure by bringing understanding and compassion into the mix. You do not necessarily have to fix the problem right away or at all. Your partner often wants you to simply understand how they feel and needs you to provide a supportive ear. Sure, we all can get caught up in the moment, and a door will slam shut or one partner might walk away.
Think about how you want to show your “best self.” Couples can learn to respond with a calm voice and compassion. Let your partner know how much you care and give a bit of time for you both to think. Share with your partner that you want to listen and talk with them so you can work together when you and your partner are ready. If you feel overwhelmed, remember you are equally responsible for choosing a calm, mature, and respectful relationship. Together, Robin will help couples find what works best for them to build better communication to resolve anger and conflict.
Whether you are in a new or long-term relationship, it can be challenging to take the first steps towards improving your sexual relationship. Opening yourself up to new experiences can bring excitement and fun to your existing relationship. Looking only at what we “think” our partner wants and societal expectations can be a couple's barrier. Think about what you both want as individuals and also as a couple.
Typically, couples have varied levels of desire and intimacy as well as different types of communication styles. What do you need? What do you want? Take steps to take a look at what matters most to you as a couple. Are you cooperatively willing to change? When both partners feel safe and secure enough to express and respond to each other, we can address problems with a caring approach.
Successful relationships take the time to communicate physical and emotional needs. During sex, try to stay in the moment and learn how to recognize and embrace your differences. As a couple, show how much you value your partner and make relationship guidelines. Use your soft voice when making requests; try to avoid phrases such as, “You never…”, “You always…”, or “You should.”
Some helpful phrases might be: “I was thinking about…”
“How do you feel about…”
“Can we try…”
Together, the aim is to find what works best for you as a couple to encourage a stronger mutual closeness and intimacy.
Couples and individual life transitions
Depression and Anxiety
Grief, loss, and shame