Joseph Kaiser

ABOUT
Born and raised in the Redwoods of Northern California, Joseph is an Associate Family Therapist and proud father. He holds an MA in Marriage and Family Therapy from the Chicago School of Professional Psychology and a BA in Psychology from the University of California Berkeley.

 

His goal is to empower personal growth through the use of dynamic evidence-based theories and therapeutic rapport. Though he also works with individuals, he is passionate about couples work. For better or worse, our earliest programming teaches us what we think marriage 'should' be. The truth is, marriage is what we make of it. We are the creators and, although painful at times, it can also inspire and empower. Joseph is a firm believer that people heal and grow in connection to others.
 

APPROACH
De-escalation and healthy communication are crucial to healthy interaction but only one dimension of couples work. Uncovering deeper unspoken truths by creating an environment of trust and acceptance is at the core of the healing process. Through the identification of negative cycles, uncovering emotions underneath, and reframing the issues we can create new more secure attachments. Joseph provides a structured, eclectic approach to couples therapy using elements of EFT, Gottman Method, CBT, Psychodynamic, Attachment Theory, and more.

 

Exploring and validating each partner's unique experience is part of connecting. He believes in the power of 'we' and helps clients work past blame and shame. Major life changes like the loss of a job, the arrival of a child, or grief and loss, can bring about a shift in dynamics. His goal is to help couples grow together instead of apart while retaining their own identity. What we need from a relationship in the beginning often changes as we evolve and mature. Intimate partnerships need periodic renewal and restoration. 

AFFAIR RECOVERY
Unfortunately, affairs transcend race, culture, sexuality, age, and socio-economic background. Whether it be emotional or sexual, infidelity is traumatic. The betrayed partner can develop depression, anxiety, and symptoms similar to PTSD while the unfaithful partner can be plagued with guilt. Our first step is crisis management to stabilize your lives so the therapeutic work can begin. Once the immediate crisis has settled, the real work begins.

 

If partners are willing, compassionate, and persistent, it can be an opportunity for tremendous growth. Affairs may be a reflection of long-standing wounds or struggles that pre-dated the marriage as well as patterns that developed during the relationship. Understanding why the affair occurred is critical to getting on a productive path to affair recovery.  Using a step-by-step process, Joseph will compassionately steer couples through this difficult minefield. 

MANAGING WORK-LIFE BALANCE CHALLENGES
He has worked with high achievers and personally experienced the pressures of running businesses while raising a family. Understanding how partners can navigate careers while sustaining a rewarding relationship and family life is a big challenge. He also knows that being a stay-at-home parent is a full-time job as well and can be equally as daunting. He brings strategies that help partners navigate these stressors and mindfulness tools for self-regulation. With a previous career as an entrepreneur and creative leader, Joseph understands the intensity involved in striving for success and brings a unique, seasoned life experience to his work.

 

PARENTING AND CO-PARENTING
It is in the best interest of their children for parents to move from an adversarial relationship to a cooperative and collaborative one. After 15 years of parenting and co-parenting of his own, Joseph leverages his training and personal experience to help couples develop co-parenting plans and maintain a safe, secure, nurturing environment for their children to thrive. When done successfully, co-parenting counseling can improve the child’s confidence and self-esteem.
 

NEURODIVERSE COUPLES 
Some couples have yet to realize they are neurodiverse. When they finally do, a diagnosis can feel like a relief after years of pain and contention. One common complaint from a partner may be that they are being "gaslighted” by the neurodiverse partner; accused of being irrational and not having their feelings validated. The neurodiverse partner can feel overwhelmed and misunderstood. Common differences in communication are logical vs. emotional, concrete vs. abstract, absolute vs. relative, and avoidant vs. insistent.

 

But where there is frustration, there are also strengths to these differences that can make their relationships rich and rewarding. Along with therapeutic rapport, Joseph begins by using an assessment specifically designed to identify neurodiverse traits and help couples identify just how those differences affect their interaction cycles. Next is to help partners learn to break the blame and shame patterns they have fallen into and find acceptance in their differences. He will guide couples through a process of exploring each partner's positive intentions as a way to unlock understanding and acceptance. Joseph works to help couples rediscover love and acceptance and start to leverage differences so they become strengths.


SPECIALTIES

  • Addictions / Drug Abuse

  • Anger Management

  • Anxiety

  • Business Partner Counseling 

  • Career Counseling

  • Couples Counseling 

  • Coping Skills

  • Depression

  • Divorce

  • Family Conflict

  • Infidelity

  • Life Transitions

  • Men's Issues

  • Mood Disorders 

  • Self Esteem

  • Stress

  • Trauma and PTSD

 

CLIENTS
Couples, Men, Women, Teens, LGBTQ+

MODALITIES
Attachment-based, Culturally Sensitive, Emotionally Focused, Existential, Family Systems, Gottman, Humanistic, Mindfulness, Motivational Interviewing, Multicultural, Psychodynamic, Solution Focused

LICENSURE
Registered Associate Marriage & Family Therapist, AMFT #131573

Supervised by Dr. Harry Motro, LMFT #53452

Employed by New Path Couples Therapy Inc.

CONTACT
josephktherapy@gmail.com
Phone: (562) 689-3908

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